Saturday, August 8, 2009

What a woman wants....

"The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is "What does a woman want?" Sigmund Freud

I sometimes wonder why it is so hard for men to understand what we want. And then there are times when I have no clue whatsoever what I want, and sympathize with them.
But if you really think about it, and think hard and long enough (without throwing your hands up in the air with a "I give up!" even before you start) , I'm certain the answer will come to you.
No, you don't have to google it (try entering the search words "what does a woman want" and you'll get 175,000,000 results....we don't want that much!!).
No, it does it not require exceptionally good analytical skills....nor does it require extreme sensitivity.
It does require patience, though.
What I've written till now does not make things clearer by an inch...I realize that.
So let's get down to enumerating some of the concrete things that this woman wants (who knows, it just might give you a clue to what your woman wants) :
1. I want respect. I don't want to be told respect has to be earned. I believe every one should be treated with at least the minimum standards of respect, and I want more respect than those minimum standards.
2. I want someone to listen without telling me what I should be doing, or what I should have done.
3. I want the right to change my mind, no matter how big the decision is.
4. I don't want to be told that I am confused. Ever. I might admit it, but this is one time I don't need you to agree with me. I want you to understand that my confusion stems from the fact that I have been weighing all possibilities, which happens to be a good thing.
5. I want flowers throughout the year. Without a reason. Without an ulterior motive.
6. I want you to understand that even though I am in favour of redefining gender roles, chivalry will always be appreciated.
7. I want surprises.
8. I want you to tell me when I'm looking good. And if I'm not looking good, I want you to keep quiet about it. Save your honesty for more important things.
9. I want to be pampered and spoilt rotten. But that does not mean that when I give my opinion you treat me like a child.
10. Do not EVER patronize me. It shows.
11. Do not judge my intellect by the way I talk to you. There is a side to me you will never know. It's deep and mysterious and I want to keep it that way.
12. I want someone who can make me laugh till my sides ache.
13. I want to laugh and talk as loud as I want. And I don't want you to feel embarrassed because of it.
14. I want coffee. As often as possible.
15. I want to be able to talk about my male friends without anyone feeling insecure because of them.
16. I want the world on a silver platter. And I don't want to be told I'm asking for too much.

And so does every other woman.......


  1. Do not judge my intellect by the way I talk to you. There is a side to me you will never know. It's deep and mysterious and I want to keep it that way.

    This of all points stood out :)

  2. I'm glad this point stood out for you above the rest..because when I read my post objectively, I couldn't help feeling a bit brattish!

  3. Yeah I am sure every other woman you mentioned must also be feeling brattish :)

    But then, in hindsight everythings just a brat game, in the shade of the died fun :)

  4. Lol!!! I loved every bit of it...ofcourse we don't always want all of these things in the same specific order, all of the time...but largely, all women seek the same stuff. we're all human, albeit subject to some brattishness once in a while, when we want to have it all and be loved for it too!

    Its been great resding your blog...esp since I used to write at one point of time and now my blog is ddwindling away in the unknown plenty of ways, I identify with what you mean about being honest with your blog, it's one place I could never lie about stuff either.

    Well, carry on, it's great to read and perhaps I shall find my long lost inspiration to return to the written word, within yours.


  5. I hope you do Shereen. It's the perfect vent!!
    I've always maintained that my blog loves me more than any mere mortal for the simple reason that it's always there to listen...and it often talks back to me when I read what I wrote months ago..

    I'm so glad you liked going through my blog...send me the link to yours if it's still open for readers! I'd love to go through it.

  6. seems Men are destined to be doomed...:)
    On a serious note that was hell of an insight of a women's world.

  7. All okay except #3, #6 & #16. Those are more of "what a hypocritical, immature whore wants"